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Dear Dabby – My Husband is Choosing Marijuana over Our Marriage, What Should I Do?

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Relationship advice from the cosmic cannabis plant

Dear Dabby: “My husband is choosing marijuana over our marriage”

“Dear Abby” is a column in the New York Post where people send in their relational problems and ask Abby – Abigail Van Buren aka Jeanne Phillips – for help. “Abby” provides common sense responses meant to help the women in question.

While I don’t read “Dear Abby” myself, I do have an alert for anything cannabis-related on the internet and this time around Abby got a concerned letter from someone who referred to themselves as “Anti-Drug”.

To be fair, I actually found myself wholeheartedly with Abby on her response to the woman’s request and decided to expand on it on a section called “Dear Dabby” – where a red-eyed ganja plant answers relational questions.

But first…how about some context.

Dear Abby’s original question…

I have been with my husband for seven years, and I’m tired of having the same fight every day. He smokes marijuana, and I hate it. It has been a constant battle for years. We tried therapy, which helped for a while, but he goes back to smoking behind my back. We tried to reach a compromise that he smoke only after a certain time of day, but it still leads to fights.

He shuts me out when he’s doing drugs and says I don’t care about his happiness because it’s something he enjoys, that I am taking it away. I love him so much, but I hate drugs and don’t like who he becomes when he’s smoking.

I want to have a baby, but I am uncomfortable with drugs being in the house. I feel like I can’t trust him to be alone with a baby when he’s high. I don’t want to leave him, but I can’t take it anymore. Having the same fight every day is exhausting, and it’s had a really negative impact on our marriage. I want him to choose me over this, but if I give him an ultimatum, he’ll hate me. What do I do? — ANTI-DRUG IN ILLINOIS – SOURCE

In essence, “Anti-Drug” is in a relationship where one person consumes cannabis while the other is fervently against it…even to the point of self-identifying as “anti-drug” ironically slurping down a Starbucks coffee. Okay, maybe she’s not slurping coffee, but I’m almost certain that come Pumpkin Spice season, she’s in line for her “fix”.

But I digress.

According to her plight, they have been “at it” for years and have already tried therapy, compromises, etc. At the end of the day it’s a battle of ideology and I’ll expand on that later as “Dabby”, but first – let’s see what Abby had to say.

Give your husband that ultimatum and pack your bags. If you prefer the father of your child not have a marijuana habit and he cannot quit, then, as much as you may love him, this person isn’t The One for you. Sorry. – Abby, NY Post

Abby is correct. In the case of “Anti-Drug”, there is no point in trying to force someone to do something they don’t want to do. If they want to keep on smoking weed, it’s not that they “choose” the substance over you, it’s because you made them choose – you’re creating conditions.

And this is perfectly okay for any type of relationship. There are “deal breakers” in relationships and it’s these “deal breakers” that establish the norms of the relationship. Without these boundaries – you can’t really call yourself a “couple” because you haven’t committed to the expectations of the relationship.

Having said that, as Abby mentions – the husband is probably going to stick with weed. And I’ll tell you why…but as… DABBY!

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Dear Anti Drug (It’s Dabby here!)

While I wholeheartedly agree with Abby in terms of your relationship being over, there’s a lot of room for growth available as a result of your impending break up. You see, I have written extensively about cannabis relationships in the past and if there is one thing that I have seen time and time again, it’s that when there is a fundamental disagreement between cannabis use and abstention – there’s always conflict.

Usually the source of conflict is the “non-user” as I’m sure your husband mellows out when he smokes cannabis and only acts weird or defensive when confronted by his use.

This isn’t to say that you aren’t entitled to a “drug free environment”, it’s simply pitting your ideological stance against that of your “love” for this man. You see, there are elements of the person you like, but you failed to accept them for who they are and prefer a version of them that they might not want to be. They now feel “conditioned” to live according to your expectation and when that happens, the relationship takes a hit because one is right whereas the other is wrong.

Unless you are able to accept your husband for who he is, with his cannabis smoking and all, and learn to trust him around kids – then you can save your relationship. However, that will also mean that you have to give up something – your views on cannabis and drugs in general.

I don’t fault you for your position on drugs. Perhaps your family raised you in a home where you believe all drugs are bad (except the pharmaceuticals) or perhaps you had a bad experience with it. Irrespective, it seems that your mind is pretty much made up on the idea of drugs and as a result, you have already given your husband his ultimatum.

Your husband had already responded too, which means now the ball is once again in your court. Do you love him more than you hate drugs? Or is the mere thought of him being high repulse you so much that you’ll never be fully open to be with him in a way that a nurturing relationship works?

These are the tough questions you’re going to have to ask yourself over the next few weeks and while I know that you won’t read this article – I also speak to other people who are in a relationship where one person wants you to give up smoking. If you don’t want to, if you truly don’t think it’s wrong – don’t give up your habit.

If the person is more important than your habitual smoking, then you may give it a try, however, it rarely works to censor yourself for someone else. It simply means that the person cannot accept you for who you are and needs a condition to be with you.

If there is a condition to be with someone, then there is no real love. Of course, we need to respect each other, make space for each other, and try to accommodate ourselves to make the other person feel heard and loved – but the moment we start drawing lines in the sand we lose the glue of a relationship.

Therefore, “anti-drug”, I’d highly recommend you reexamine your views on drugs in general. They don’t “change” people as much as you think. Non-cannabis smokers often associate the “high” with being drunk, when it’s completely on opposite spectrums.

Nonetheless, you are entitled to your beliefs and for your next relationship, find someone who love doing a “deal breaker” in your relationship.

Establish your boundaries, respect yourself – and if someone places conditions for their love…then they don’t really love you but the thought of you…

Source: https://cannabis.net/blog/opinion/dear-dabby-my-husband-is-choosing-marijuana-over-our-marriage-what-should-i-do

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Supreme Court Raises Concern Over Steep Medicine Mark-Ups at Corporate Hospitals

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The Supreme Court of India has questioned the sharp difference between the prices at which medicines reach retailers and the maximum retail prices charged to patients, particularly in corporate hospitals.

During a hearing on September 29, a bench of Justices Vikram Nath and Sandeep Mehta examined whether a uniform limit of 16% could be applied to medicine margins. The discussion followed the court’s earlier concern over a cancer medicine with a retailer price of about ₹2,700–₹3,000 but an MRP of ₹27,000.

Court Questions Wide Gap Between Retail Price and MRP

The Supreme Court focused on how such large differences between the Price to Retailer (PTR) and MRP can affect patients who have little choice over where they obtain medicines during hospital treatment.

The bench questioned why different pricing rules should apply to essential and non-essential medicines and asked whether a common 16% margin could be considered across pharmaceutical products. The issue remains under consideration and the court has not imposed such a cap at this stage.

Concerns Over In-House Hospital Pharmacies

The court also examined the purchasing practices of corporate hospitals.

According to the proceedings, patients admitted to some hospitals may be directed to obtain medicines from the facility’s own pharmacy. The bench raised concerns about situations in which hospitals may not accept medicines purchased from outside pharmacies or may decline to provide treatment assurances when patients bring their own drugs.

The issue becomes particularly significant for patients undergoing expensive or long-term treatments, where medicine costs can represent a substantial part of the overall bill.

Impact on Government Health Schemes

The Supreme Court also highlighted the potential effect of high medicine prices on publicly funded healthcare programmes.

Where treatment is reimbursed under government schemes, the court noted that taxpayers ultimately finance the medical expenses. If reimbursement is calculated using substantially inflated MRPs, the difference between procurement costs and the amount reimbursed could increase public expenditure.

The bench also pointed to a consumer-trust problem. If a medicine officially carries an MRP of ₹27,000 but a pharmacy offers it for around ₹3,000, patients may question whether the cheaper medicine is genuine.

Government Seeks Time to Examine the Issue

Solicitor General Tushar Mehta, appearing for the Centre, told the court that the government would need to work out a balanced approach.

The government has been asked to examine the issue with relevant officials before responding further. The court granted additional time for consultations rather than immediately introducing a new pricing rule.

The proceedings are part of a broader case concerning medicine pricing, generic prescriptions and regulation of medical costs. The Supreme Court’s official website lists Justice Vikram Nath and Justice Sandeep Mehta as sitting together in Court No. 2 on September 29, 2026.

Court’s Earlier Warning on Medicine Pricing

The latest hearing follows strong observations made by the Supreme Court earlier in September after it examined the pricing of cancer medicines.

The bench had highlighted an example where a medicine costing roughly ₹2,700 at the retailer level carried an MRP of ₹27,000. The court questioned how such a substantial price difference could be justified when patients are dependent on life-saving medicines.

The court also heard arguments that pharmaceutical manufacturers may not necessarily retain the entire difference between the retailer price and the final amount charged to patients, with significant margins potentially arising at later stages of the supply chain, including retail and hospital sales.

What Happens Next?

The Supreme Court has not yet ordered a nationwide 16% medicine-margin cap. Instead, it has asked the government to consider possible regulatory solutions and return with its response.

The matter is scheduled for further hearing on October 12, when the court is expected to consider the government’s position on medicine pricing and related issues.

Any eventual regulatory change could have implications for patients, hospitals, pharmacies, pharmaceutical companies and government-funded healthcare programmes. For now, the 16% figure remains a proposal raised during the court proceedings rather than an operative rule.

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Economic Fraud

Fugitive Medicare Fraud Suspect Returned to US After Arrest in Türkiye

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U.S. federal authorities have secured the return of a fugitive suspect accused of involvement in a massive Medicare fraud operation, following his arrest in Türkiye. The extradition marks a significant development in a major healthcare fraud investigation that allegedly cost the American healthcare system billions of dollars.

The suspect, Ibrahim Khaldoon Hilmi, is now in federal custody after spending more than a year outside the United States. Prosecutors are expected to move forward with criminal proceedings as investigators continue to examine what authorities describe as a sophisticated fraud network targeting public healthcare funds.

International Manhunt Ends with Arrest in Türkiye

According to federal investigators, Hilmi left the United States in May 2025 while authorities were building their case. Law enforcement agencies later tracked his location to Türkiye, where cooperation between U.S. and Turkish officials led to his detention.

Following the completion of legal and diplomatic procedures, the suspect was transferred to American custody. Officials described the operation as a successful example of international law enforcement collaboration in pursuing suspects accused of large-scale financial crimes.

A specialized FBI team reportedly traveled to Türkiye to coordinate the transfer and ensure the extradition process was completed smoothly.

Alleged Scheme Targeted Medicare Reimbursement System

Investigators allege that Hilmi played a central role in a fraudulent operation that exploited the Medicare reimbursement system through false claims and improper billing practices.

Authorities estimate that the alleged scheme involved financial losses equivalent to approximately ₹31,700 crore, making it one of the most significant healthcare fraud investigations in recent years.

While the allegations have yet to be tested in court, investigators believe the operation relied on complex financial transactions and coordinated activities designed to extract funds from a government healthcare program serving millions of beneficiaries.

Federal Agencies Expand Investigation

The case extends beyond a single suspect. Federal authorities are examining the potential involvement of additional individuals, businesses, and organizations believed to be connected to the alleged fraud network.

Investigators are reviewing banking records, financial transactions, corporate structures, and digital evidence to determine the full scope of the operation and identify any additional participants.

Officials indicated that tracing the movement of funds and uncovering potential links between entities remains a key focus of the ongoing investigation.

Healthcare Fraud Remains a Major Concern

Government agencies continue to treat Medicare fraud as a serious threat because it impacts taxpayer-funded healthcare resources intended for legitimate medical services.

Authorities argue that fraudulent claims can divert critical funding, increase administrative costs, and place additional pressure on public healthcare programs. As healthcare systems become increasingly digitized, fraud schemes have also become more sophisticated and difficult to detect.

Financial crime specialists note that modern healthcare fraud investigations often involve shell companies, layered transactions, and cross-border financial networks that require extensive forensic analysis.

Growing Importance of Global Law Enforcement Cooperation

The successful return of Hilmi highlights the increasing role of international cooperation in combating financial crime. Law enforcement agencies worldwide are relying more heavily on cross-border partnerships to locate and apprehend suspects who attempt to evade prosecution by relocating overseas.

Officials say such collaborations are essential as financial crimes become increasingly global in nature, involving multiple jurisdictions and complex international money flows.

Legal Proceedings Ahead

The U.S. Department of Justice is expected to present evidence against the suspect as court proceedings move forward. Prosecutors will seek to establish the extent of the alleged fraud and determine accountability among those involved.

The outcome of the case could influence future enforcement efforts aimed at protecting public healthcare programs and strengthening safeguards against large-scale financial misconduct.

For federal authorities, the extradition of Ibrahim Khaldoon Hilmi represents a major step in an ongoing campaign to crack down on healthcare fraud and recover public funds allegedly lost through criminal schemes.

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Cyber Crime

Telangana Doctors Lose Nearly ₹30 Crore to Cyber Fraud Since September 2024

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Cybercriminals have defrauded doctors across Telangana of nearly ₹30 crore since September 2024, prompting authorities to strengthen awareness campaigns and cybersecurity education within the healthcare sector.

The alarming figures were revealed during a cyber awareness programme organized by the Telangana Cyber Security Bureau (TGCSB) in Hyderabad. Senior officials warned that healthcare professionals are increasingly becoming targets of sophisticated online scams despite their educational and professional backgrounds.

Healthcare Professionals Under Growing Cyber Threat

Addressing representatives from various medical associations, TGCSB Director Shikha Goel highlighted the rising number of cybercrime incidents involving doctors and healthcare workers. She emphasized that cybercriminals are exploiting digital platforms to target individuals across all professions, including highly qualified medical practitioners.

Officials stressed that vigilance, awareness, and prompt reporting remain the strongest defenses against cyber fraud. The event focused on strengthening cooperation between law enforcement agencies and the medical fraternity to improve preparedness against evolving cyber threats.

More than 70 office-bearers from medical organizations across Telangana attended the session, including presidents, secretaries, treasurers, and senior representatives.

Investment Scams Responsible for Major Financial Losses

According to TGCSB data, at least 735 doctors have reported cybercrime-related incidents since September 2024, with total losses reaching approximately ₹29.88 crore.

Business and investment fraud emerged as the most damaging category, accounting for losses of ₹22.39 crore involving 127 victims. Investigators noted that fraudsters often lure professionals with promises of high returns, fake investment opportunities, and deceptive business schemes.

Authorities also reported a wide range of other cyber offences affecting doctors, including digital arrest scams, identity theft, impersonation fraud, fake advertisements, job-related scams, insurance fraud, cryptocurrency fraud, UPI-related cheating, matrimonial scams, and sextortion cases.

Authorities Stress Importance of Rapid Reporting

The Telangana Cyber Security Bureau urged victims to report cybercrime incidents immediately, especially during the critical “golden hour” after a fraudulent transaction occurs.

Officials explained that timely complaints through the national cybercrime helpline 1930 and the official cybercrime reporting portal can significantly improve the chances of freezing suspicious transactions and recovering stolen funds.

The bureau further warned that cybercriminals are employing increasingly advanced techniques to deceive victims, making awareness and quick action more important than ever.

Medical Associations Join Awareness Drive

Representatives from associations of paediatricians, cardiologists, dentists, orthopaedic surgeons, gynaecologists, and hospital administrators participated in the discussions. The groups pledged to work closely with authorities to spread cybersecurity awareness through hospitals, clinics, medical conferences, and professional training programmes.

Officials believe that expanding cyber awareness among healthcare professionals will play a key role in reducing financial fraud and strengthening digital security across the state’s medical community.

As cyber threats continue to evolve, law enforcement agencies are encouraging doctors and other professionals to remain cautious when responding to investment offers, unknown communications, and requests for sensitive financial information online.

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